Who should be taught how to dream — the kids or parents?

Let’s apply the Goal-oriented design to life.

Goal: To understand life.

Tasks to achieve that goal: Education, and etcetera

With my relatives from other places were here in Cebu last week, we had a mini reunion. Most of my cousins now are in college, and 1 is having his ECE review. The usual question I would ask them is what are their plans after college, and they would usually give me an ‘I don’t know’ answer. I can relate to them because I was once like that, am actually still on the process of trying to figure out what I want out of my life.

So I told my ECE reviewee cousin that since he has no idea what to do after maybe he should get a plumbing crash course in TESDA so he could work in NZ. And my aunt reacted that no, he’s not going that direction but he’ll proceed to masters after that licensing thing. And, I was like what will he do after masters. If he’s a plumber, at least he now knows what to do next — go to NZ and work as a plumber.

In my mind, if you cannot figure out what you will do after you become a licensed engineer, what’s the point of getting a master’s degree? From my understanding, you go to masters because you are doing something that interest you, and you want to know more about it that’s why you go to masters. If you cannot figure out what to do with your undergraduate course, I do not think the masters degree can help much.

This is to remind myself and other parents that our main goal is to help our kids understand life, so they could figure out how to make the best of it. Putting them to school is just one of the many ways to do it.

I’m not sure what I’m really trying to point out. Somehow, with all our obsession about giving our kids a comfortable life and the ‘best’ of schooling, we forgot the very basic thing about life which is to dream, dream crazily. We abandon our wild dreams, our crazy dreams because we have to be ‘selfless’ for our kids. Dreamless parents = dreamless kids but a very comfortable life. Probably, not really bad. =)